dealing with death

[a m y]

Just thought I would post this thread, as I found out on Friday that dad has cancer. Caused by asbestos, he has about 6-9 months to live. I am in my HSC year, and I think its going to be really hard this year, but isnt it murphys law. I dont know why I decided to post this thread, there isnt really responses im wanting, and I dont want sympathy. I continually contemplate the cancer add, from the female smoker (which my dad is not a smoker or drinker) where she says "how are you going to deal with the fact that you are going to die... you dont" and it is very true. He is a hard worker, and to think in 4 months he could be sitting a chair relying on oxygen to keep him alive is really upseting. well anyway hope your all going well xx

also forgot to add.. my 17th is in 16 days.. and its hard thinking that it is probably the last bday he will spend with me.

[Serial-Killer]

that really sucks. just remember when a doctor says a person with cancer has 6 months to live take not much notice because ther all full of shit.

edit. shit asbestos is really bad but if your dads a fighter then expect longer.

[DeCoDe™]

ahhhh thats just ****ed up, my sister died of cancer a fair few years ago now, they give her 6 months and she lasted 2 years, she would have lasted longer, she died earlier because when she went to get her daily medicine they gave her the wrong stuff the ****en idiots, 2 weeks before she died her dog was shot, naaa life's just a bitch sometimes.
but amy, good on you for being brave enough to even make this thread, i know it must have been hard, i know you must be confused and think you wish it was one big dream, stay strong, everyone deals with it in their own way.
one other thing with my sister, at least i got to spend that extra time with her before she died, a sudden death i dont think i could handle, but a coming death you would be amazing on how strong you are when everyday since you find out your mind prepares
for it, i no thats sounds silly but its true, when the time comes you will already be ready for it as you new it was coming. sorry if this makes no sense to some of you.

p.s a few months ago we found out from the doctors that my mum has less than 6 months to live after the operation to remove cancer, 1 month after the operation she/we found out she was cancer free. those few months we thought she was going to die was hell, i was like not another member of the family.
anyway send my regards to you and your family amy.

[ener15]

my friend's grandma has cancer... it's really hard on her right now, and i have to be there for her alot. and then another friend of mine is on chemo therapy for cancer. its hard dealing with. and, i say i am sorry to all the rest of you on here, too.

[a m y]

yea thanks heaps. all of you, it is really appreciated. My aunty has a rare disease and they gave her a few months ... seventeen years ago !! but it is hard because you cant assume you have more time, and you just hope that you do. thanks again.

[.x.TinkerBelle.x.]

I know how hard the death of a close family member can be. I have lost both of my grandparents.
My grandfather died when I was about 7 or 8, from cancer. He also had two heart attacks, so it was hard on him.
My grandma got Alzheimers disease, and I had to sit by and watch her forget about all of us and get worse and worse, and it got increasingly worse when she fell over because she had bad balance, and she had to be put in a wheelchair. I never got a chance to say good-bye to either of them, and it's hard to this day and I still miss them a ton. I know they're still with me in soul, but not in person.
But the pain eventually goes away. Of course, you'll remember them and you'll miss them when you remember the good times, but you'll laugh over the good times you had together and you know they would want you to carry on.

[xXYourGuardianAngelXx]

My grandad died of cancer just last week, and he hung on for a while until he felt himself he was ready to go (he asked not to have any more medication etc because he wanted to go) It is upsetting i admit, but its easier as in some situations you feel compltely alone however in these types of situations its not just you being affected, your whole family is and it shakes you all which makes you all stronger. My family have been in complete ruins for the past few years and after my grandad died we have grown closer and the huge fighting and stuff that went on before has stopped and we act more like a family again....=]

[jayne94]

I lost my Pop not long ago

[Lilgreentimes]

I wish you the best, doctor's don't know everything that's been confirmed 100s of times.

[WJP.]

My partner's father passed away from cancer a while back, and the other day down the street, someone come up to his mum and said so i hear your son is moving out, how are you going to cope blah blah blah... and in the end of the conversation ended up laughing in their faces saying oh yeah your dad/husband died!, you'll be right... I mean even after two years the loss of someone so significant in your life is still so raw and he is still dealing with it in his own way and for someone to say that was so wrong.. how is he supposed to deal with death, if he thinks people are going to mock him for his loss?